Goethe walked in the park, meeting his critics on a narrow path that only one person could pass by. "I never give way to fools," said the critic. "I'm just the opposite!" Goethe said, retreating to the roadside with a smile.

It is inevitable to be provoked by bad people for no reason, or misunderstood and stigmatized by bad people. If you allow anger to attack you, you can only self-destruct and hurt yourself in the end.

Hold down the fire at a critical moment, and any difficult situation will usher in a turnaround.

As Shakespeare said:

Who can remain calm in amazement, stable in anger, and sober in anger is the true hero.

Only with a clear mind can one be orderly; Only when you are not angry can you take things calmly.

 

The difference between people is probably:

A foolish person is used to blaming others for their mistakes, while a wise person finds the reason for everything from himself.

During the Xia Dynasty, the vassal family Youhu led troops to invade.

Xia Yu sent his son Boqi to fight against the enemy, but he was defeated. The subordinates expressed their dissatisfaction and requested to fight again to remove their former shame.

Unexpectedly, Boqi refused and said, "We have more soldiers and a larger land area than he did. However, we were defeated in this situation. It must be because my method of leading troops is not as good as him. I should first reflect and correct myself."

From then on, Boqi got up early every day, trained soldiers, concentrated on research, recruited talented people, and became stronger and stronger.

A year later, the Youhu family learned that instead of invading again, they voluntarily surrendered.

This is the power of reflection.

Sitting in silence often reflects on one's own thoughts, while chatting is not a short story.

In the face of the hardships of life, there is no need to blame others or lose heart.

Look for reasons in yourself, accept from the heart, take responsibility, think with the mind, and change.

Criticism, though harsh, is an indispensable medicine on the road to life.

True maturity is when you hear criticism, stop being vigorous and stand up.

It's about being calm and listening.

Such a person is one who puts down oneself, pushes down the high wall of oneself, and becomes broader and deeper.

This is also what we say: to smell is to rejoice.

I feel very happy to hear criticism from others. This is the highest pattern and realm of life.

Sincere criticism is far more valuable than false praise.

Interact with those who dare to criticize you, help you cut off your unwanted branches, carve out your own flaws, and grow into a more valuable jade.

Berikov, the protagonist of "The Man in a Suit," always believes that there will be chaos in life, so when he goes out, even on sunny days, he will bring rain gear, wear shoe covers, and a warm overcoat.

He often lives in his own imaginary worries and eventually dies in them. Our lives are often trapped by various current situations and thoughts:

I don't like this major, but I don't have the courage to change majors;

I want to resign, but I'm afraid my next job may not be as good as my current one;

I want to learn and improve myself, but I find that I don't have the whole time

Such people have a characteristic: they think more and do less, and are always consumed by the gap between ideal and reality.

Spend one minute more on internal friction and one minute less on solving problems.

Stop the fear of difficulties, let go of the obsession in your heart, and don't struggle repeatedly over things that didn't happen and your own assumptions. By taking action, you can overcome all internal friction.

The main difference between people's destinies lies in the difference in their ability to think.

If the train of thought is incorrect, any amount of enthusiasm and effort will be futile.

An excellent person is not necessarily one with stronger abilities, higher IQ, or better concentration than us.

"Just because they think deeper and see more than us, they see larger systems and have the ability to solve more complex problems.".

The so-called "perseverance" means that only those who know how to think outside the norm can become extraordinary people.

When situations are complex, it is necessary to be good at finding "meta problems", which are essentially problems.

When a situation cannot be advanced, it is necessary to be good at discovering "bright spots", that is, to find advantages from disadvantages, turn disadvantages into advantages, and turn dangers into opportunities.

The bottom of life is simply that your current abilities are not enough to support the life you want. So what you need to do is concentrate on cultivation and wait for the flowers to bloom.

Maintain self-discipline and set some plans and goals for yourself.

You can learn a new skill, such as swimming, shooting;

You can adjust your state to be more positive, optimistic, and upward;

You can also cultivate the habit of getting up early, going to bed early, or taking a lunch break.

Learn to precipitate, precipitate words and deeds, precipitate emotions, and precipitate the heart.

"Re anchor the direction, and scatter all sadness, all grievances, and all grievances on your actions. No matter how long the road is, you will eventually reach the top.".

 

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